ANGER MANAGEMENT

So you were having a lovely time sparring with an opponent, whom you could beat up all around. You were able to block all the attacks and were able to deliver all your shots perfectly. But hey, what do you know, a wild shot struck you right on the face….and another … and yet another one… damn… are you all hot inside… is your head spinning… has your smile left your face… did you stop enjoying it… do you wanna kick the opponent’s ass!!!

Well yeah you do, but its just that these emotions are coming up while you fight… its just does not seem to be working any more. All shots are heading wild..  what the hell happened?

Simply put, you are just getting angrier, you are letting your emotions take the best of you. Yes, we all go through this, whether it’s the controlled environment of one of our centres, where you have one of the instructors, ensuring that you don’t loose your ground, or outside, where it’s even more riskier, cause you are fighting wild (verbal or physical).

The point of any fight, or any argument, is to keep your cool. And why, cause you are a chicken, and hence won’t hit back!!… well not exactly, cause you are smarter. Cause you are looking for the weakness in your opponent. Whether it’s verbal or physical, hitting and getting hit is going to be part of the whole game. Best of the fighters (debaters in verbal) have gone through a situation, where they were at the receiving end. But that doesn’t mean, they have won their battles by just hitting back with all their anger.

Curb that anger. Channelize it. Nurture it, cause that anger and emotion is good, if it’s moved cautiously forward, for that ultimate goal of being the last man (woman) standing after the battle is over.

Well so much about talking on what not to do, but how the hell does one keep his or her anger at bay. Well simple, by first acknowledging that “Yes I would get hit”, “My opponent can also get lucky, or can just be that talented to hit back”… that means, you are learning from your opponent’s move. That blow on your face, is just another technique providing opportunity to try something new. Does it stop the anger within, well it does, cause now you working that energy of anger and emotions into a positive though, letting it move places within your brain.

And yes, you could use this outside as well. Imagine a bike just brushed past your car.. do you come out and beat the pulp out of the poor fella (cause hey, you are that great martial artist J ), or would you just focus on how the hell this happened. So it was his fault… punish him or her if you have to, but without loosing your cool. You don’t wanna be doing something you would live to regret later on.

By curbing your anger, you would ensure that the rest of the journey after the brushing incident is still managed. You are not hard headed.

You could apply this even on the streets, when someone accidently, or intentionally tries to brush past. Yes, you punish the poor sucker … (why the hell are we teaching you those techniques), but then rather than being angry on why it happened and you should broken his neck, instead of his hand, think about how it worked out for you and maybe the next time, if you moved around a bit more and use that footwork, maybe you would have to use lesser of your force J …

So yea, Curb that Anger.. it ain’t healthy for your fights, certainly not for your training program within the martial art’s arena and definitely unhealthy for those valuable relationships which matter to you the most.

- kNiGhTrIdEr